attachmentdisordermoms - Taking Time For Yourself

When you get up in the morning one of the first things you should ask yourself is "What am I going to do to take care of myself today?" If you find that too self indulgent ask yourself "What am I going to do to take care of my needs so I can be a better mom today?"

IDEAS

FREE:

nap
watch your favorite tv show in a room with the door shut
a long bath or shower
read a book
do your nails
give yourself a facial

CHEAP:

Go out for a cup of coffee or soft drink with a friend or by yourself
See a matinee or dollar movie
rent a dvd that no one else in your house will watch but you love
buy a magazine and go to the park and read under a tree
join a group that shares an interest with you: a book club, Bible study, garden club, extension club, bridge club

TREATS:

manicures/pedicures
massage
facial at a spa
eat out with friends
go shopping and DON'T buy anything for the kids . Buy yourself a CD, perfume, outfit or new shoes!
Meet your husband for breakfast or lunch without the kids!

RETREATS: I Retreat Once a Month!

spend the night at a friends house
visit a family member over night
find a sitter for the kids and take hubby to another town and remember how to go out and have FUN.
get in touch with old friends and meet for a night or weekend
attend attachment conference with hubby

Seminar info: http://www.attachment.org/Seminars.htm

http://www.radkid.org/training_sites.html

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Point Of Grace - How You Live
From the album How You Live

Wake up to the sunlight with your windows open
Don't hold in your anger or leave things unspoken
Wear your red dress, use your good dishes
Make a big mess and make lots of wishes

And have what you want, but want what you have
And don't spend your life looking back

Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances and let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Looking back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live

So go to the ballgames and go to the ballet
And go see your folks more than just on the holidays
Kiss all your children, dance with your wife
Tell your husband you love him every night

Don't run from the truth 'cause you can't get away, no
Face it and you'll be okay

(Chorus)

Oh, wherever you are and wherever you've been
Now is the time to begin
So give to the needy, and pray for the grieving
Even when you don't think that you can
'Cause all that you do is bound to come back to you
So think of your fellow man
And make peace with God, and make peace with yourself
'Cause in the end, there's nobody else

(Chorus

MA KETTLE SYNDROME

All right. I confess. I made this syndrome up. Every mom I have talked to that has children with RAD has mentioned the days of feeling tired, worn out, old and mean. The sweats and sweatshirts come out. Fixing the hair and applying make up stop. It happens to all of us when we feel defeated. Don't believe this about yourself. Give yourself the things you need to feel better. Don't buy into the RAD lies about who you are. You are smart. You are going to make great decisions about your child's treatment. You are strong. You are worth the time and effort. The things your child with RAD are saying about you and to you are because he is sick. They are not true.